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Are there any things that you wished you yourself had known as a first-time mum?

I wish I was told that breastfeeding is hard and challenging and that it doesn't always work for some people and that if it doesn't then that's ok too.

I think promoting breastfeeding is great but I was not prepared for it to not work and therefore didn't purchase any bottles or sterilising stuff because I just expected to breastfeed.

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Mum of 1

I don’t feel like I was fully prepared for labor recovery.

I wish I would have known more about the things that can be used to help with mama recovery amidst adjusting to life with baby.

I’m actually a pelvic physiotherapist who specializes in pregnancy and postpartum care - so I knew a lot about labor and postpartum exercise... but what caught me off guard was how much pain and discomfort I was in during those early postpartum days when I was trying to also figure out breastfeeding and my baby.

Long story short, I had a very long labor with over six hours of active pushing so I had a lot of tearing and there was no comfortable position to sit, lay, stand, etc for at least a couple weeks.

I learned a lot about sitz baths, perineal sprays, perineal ice packs, etc that would have been helpful to at least know about in advance versus trying to learn it all in the moment.

So I guess what I’m trying to say is every labor is unique and I personally think it’s worth learning about 'if I tear, then I can do this' or 'if I end up with a C-section, then I can do this'… just being mentally prepared for any outcome and how you can help yourself through the recovery.

Great question! Loads of things! 🤣

But I think the main one is to be as relaxed as possible about what is out of your control. Moments of time feel so long and stressful at times and then suddenly it’s infinitely better.

So to try and remember that things always get better in time and try not to sweat the small stuff in that moment. Just roll with it and do what you need to do.

Pregnant mum of 2