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Mum of 3

How do I tell my partner of 17 years how I have been feeling since I had my little girl 14 months ago? He does have his own issues with work so I haven't told him because I don't want him worrying about me. Some people will think I should be able to tell him because we have been together so long.

It all depends on how comfortable you are with talking about your feelings. If you're happy to be completely open and honest about it all then tell him as he may be able to help with these feelings.


I’m in the same situation with my partner but please don’t let these feelings get the best of you and cause you to explode.

It’s probably stress from having a toddler as well as worrying about what your partner may think. Do you have any friends/family that you're close enough with to be open about it all? They might be able to give you insight into why you feel like this as they know you personally.

I think the longer you are in the relationship the less you tend to explain yourself. I've been married for 14 years but have definitely found when I’m honest it makes me feel better, and I cope better just voicing it to someone who’s there everyday.

Not to say I have always got the response I wanted or needed from my husband but if they don't know they can’t help if they wanted to. There's no point struggling alone when there is someone who’s also been there for so long.