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When will I start feeling a bond with my second baby? I'm currently going through severe pregnancy sickness (HG) and feel guilty as I can't take care of my firstborn toddler. The serious sickness started at week four, I'm now at week 11 and it's not getting better. I even searched for abortion, which I know I don't want to do. But I don't feel anything towards my little one inside.

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re struggling! It sounds so difficult and you’re not alone. Lots of other women, especially those who experience hyperemesis, feel this way.

Have you spoken to your GP or midwife about this? There are lots of things that they can do to help.

Depending on where you’re booked, some hospitals have a HG unit where they can offer you some more specialised support as it is well known that it is incredibly difficult time for women.

I hope this helps, please know you aren’t alone and it will get better, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now! Please talk to your support network and let them know how you’re feeling and your Gp/midwife.

Pregnant mum of 2