Is your nine month old 'aggressive'? My daughter is not careful and instead of cuddling us, she almost slaps us! And loves poking her fingers in our eyes.
Hahahaha I can so relate! My 11 month old daughter is the same. Instead of slaps to the face I'm teaching her to high five which seems to have worked.
Also I've been trying to model being gentle, but so far no luck.
Her newest fascination is pulling my eyelashes or prying my eyelids open!