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I need some advice- I’m struggling to communicate with my partner. I need to ask him for more support in the home, e.g. cleaning and laundry, as I do everything on top of caring for our six month old. He also has been using cocaine quite frequently and I struggle to talk to him about this. Although he is seeking counseling for his addiction and I am waiting for NHS couples counseling it has been slow to come. Any advice?

It sounds like you have a lot going on but you have a plan for what would help you. I’m wondering if you can tell your partner how you are feeling using ‘I messages’. For example:

'I’m feeling overwhelmed with all the laundry that needs to get done on top of taking care of the baby and I’m wondering if we can come up with a plan for how to make this less of a stress for me. I was thinking maybe...'

Jodi, Tinto Expert