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Since having my baby four weeks ago, I have little interest in seeing friends and keep making excuses not to see them. I panic if they turn up with their kids, as they keep touching my baby. I love my friends and their kids to pieces but the anxiety I get about the kids touching my baby because of germs is through the roof. I'm struggling to get myself out of the mindset. Even friends without kids I just can't be bothered to see and get teary if they come over because I want them to leave. Has anyone been through something similar? How did you get out of that mindset? Thank you.

I am very sorry to hear that.

First of all, you just had a baby so if you do not want to see people and have them touch your baby, especially given we’re just coming out of a pandemic, that’s OK! Try not to be too hard on yourself and do say no if you need space.

If however you experience other things such as lack of appetite, insomnia, restlessness, etc then I would suggest you speak to a healthcare professional as it may be hormone related (the changes you go through in these first weeks are literally mental) or an oncoming postnatal depression or anxiety. I suffered from it and realised only later on and was relieved when I finally got help so don’t hesitate to speak to a professional such as your GP.

Hope you feel better soon!

Mum
Mum

Yeah I was really anxious about my baby being exposed to the outside world to start with. Trust me it fades. It's only natural (and right) to try and protect your newborn. They're still so vulnerable! You're just a good mama bear, it will fade and you'll relax with time, you'll see.

It’s totally understandable- you’re adjusting to your new role. Just take your time and let them know you’re not ready for visits yet.

Mum