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I'm seven weeks postpartum and feeling like I'm not getting any time with my partner... admittedly he starts work at 3pm and finishes at 11pm but by then I'm shattered as I'm an early night type of person. We have only had sex once since giving birth and it's not happend again since. Has this ever happen to you? And if so how did you cope or get things rolling again? Thanks!

I had the exact same issue with my little one and boyfriend. He worked five days a week and so I was often on my own and didn't have the energy for anything romantic. We didn't have sex again til three to four months postpartum and it's okay... you need to let your body heal and give it time to rest so there's no need to put pressure on yourself to rush back into intimacy. Just try and make time for one another, even if it's just sitting down eating a meal together. Take time to remember that you're still someone's partner and that matters too! Enjoy your time together, what little spare time we do have as parents!

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I think this is just something that takes time. It’s not nice when you’re used to having all that quality time with your partner and then all of a sudden your needs don’t really matter anymore as it’s all about your little one. And then when they’re finally asleep, you’re shattered too.

I think maybe starting off small and maybe getting someone to take your little one off your hands for a few hours so you can spend time together then build up to a night away might be a good idea. I think it’s really important to try and find time for each other but unfortunately whereas in the past it could be more spontaneous, it probably needs to be planned until you are all back on you feet and have more energy.

My partner something works long hours so I don't see him for the whole day, which can be tough. I just try to make sure that when we have moments together, I give him a cuddle or we just act like big kids and mess around which brings lots of fun and laughter.

I'm nine weeks postpartum and we haven't had sex yet (just me being nervous as I had problems after birth). But we'll do other things. Well nothing on me but on him.

Maybe before he starts work at 3pm, you can take your little one for a walk around, have a chance to have a catch up or watch a movie and snuggle on the sofa together. Perhaps one night a week, you can stay up a little later to see him in. I know it's tough when you know you'll most likely be up in a few hours. Just take any free opportunity to embrace him. Even if he's getting ready for work, give him a kiss or something. Might make him feel like he'll want to extend that kiss! Good luck!

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