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My baby is now threemonths old and I'm finding myself still worried about going out with him, even to a family member's house.

I can't stop worrying about routine being upset, too distracted to feed properly, and him having a shorter nap.

I worry I'm being judged on how I'm raising him too, even though deep down I know no one is.

If something doesn't go very well , I straightaway jump to worst case scenario and start panicking. I just don't know what to do and I feel like it's stopping me going out.

Since your routine is clearly very important to you, have you talked with your family and friends about it? If they are aware of your routine then it's easier for everyone to follow it and support it.

I don't have a strict routine but there are a few things I try my best to stick to every day. One of them is the bedtime routine which for us starts around 7pm. Everyone in the family knows, including my in-laws. So when we are visiting on weekends and I say that we have to go because baby has to go to bed, everyone understands.

Do you know any other mothers or are there any groups you could join in your area? Something which has helped me relax is talking with other mums. Especially ones who do things totally differently to me. It makes me realise that there isn't one way of doing things right. There are so many ways to get to the same result.

Your health visitor might be able to help you get in touch with others in your area, or get you some other help if your anxiety is really severe. I understand it can be hard to get out from the house. It doesn't have to be every day and it doesn't have to be a big outing. Just walking around the block or up and down the street can be enough. Start small. Hope this helps!


Just go at your own pace! If you stress or worry too much then it won't go as 'planned'. Or, find a friend or family member to go with you just out and about to help ease everything. If you don't have anyone you can think of, just walk down the street or go out for five minutes! That's what I've done, I still dont go out alone. One step at a time and you'll get there!