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Hi, new mum to a three month old here!

I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing or being attentive enough. I'm really struggling with body image and I am missing my old self. I feel exhausted and like I am not acomplishing anything. The house looks like a dump. I'm overwhelmed. But at the same time I know I have one of the easier babies so I should be thankful... But I'm not.

I do have mum friends around here but I don't want to discuss this with them. Other people have brought up feeling this way, but I haven't. I don't want to sound like a broken record. Would be happier to talk to a complete stranger.

Hi, first I want to tell you that I too felt everything you are describing when my girl was that age. It may sound like a cliche but it helps talking about it.

A baby requires so much of us, even if you have an easy baby and it is ok to feel overwhelmed!

What did you like to do before baby? Is there any possibility for you to get some time for yourself and do something just for you?

I understand the feeling of not accomplishing anything, I did too. On the other hand, you have gone through a pregnancy, given birth, you’ve done it during Covid and you’ve cared for your baby for three months - that is a huge accomplishment!

In terms of body image, we are fed with the images of the 'ideal' body. For me, it helped to look on old pictures where I felt I looked bad. Looking back, I realise it was all in my head. Cleared out all social media that I felt triggered those thoughts too.

Much love!

Mum
Mum of 1

Hiya sweetheart. I'm here if you ever want to talk! Things can get so overwhelming. My daughter is 10 months now, she's one of the easier babies too but we're allowed to have crap days and have messy houses. The dishes in my sink have legit been there for going on four days now! You aren't alone.

When you're pregnant, everything is so focused on the baby. No one really talks about all of the postpartum struggles and I think that's something that needs to change! Us mamas are always so hard on ourselves, that's why I think it's good to have someone to tell you that you're doing a brilliant job. And you ARE mama! Sending lots of hugs and good vibes.