Hi! I hope you’re well. So to cut a long story short, I’m thinking of trying for another baby. But I had a pretty traumatic birth with my first. He had a lot of health issues and I think I’m scared that the same might happen again.
Birth trauma is terrible to go through and no one wants to experience that twice, so it’s completely understandable to be scared of a second birth.
Often talking to a therapist about the birth trauma can help to alleviate those painful and stressful memories in a safe and empathetic space. It can also help to develop a plan for a subsequent birth.
There are also therapies that can be really helpful for trauma in general and one is Eye Movement and Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). In this treatment a therapist guides you to make rhythmic eye movements while recalling the traumatic event. The eye movements are designed to stimulate the information-processing system in the brain. The aim of the treatment is to help you process the traumatic events, and speed up re-adjustment and recovery.
Have a read of this if you're interested: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/postnatal-depression-and-perinatal-mental-health/ptsd-and-birth-trauma/
The bottom line is that processing what happened is important in order to plan how to improve the second birth. It’s really tough to think of putting yourself in a potentially traumatic situation again but with support you can do it.